Why Is Talking About Hurt Feelings With Your Partner So Difficult?

Do you ever wonder why you hold back when you know you ought to tell your partner how you’re feeling? You know what I’m talking about—that exchange between the two of you that took a left turn into a topic that hurt your feelings or made you feel upset or insecure. Perhaps

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Leah CochraneOctober 13, 2018December 11, 2018Lesbians, LGBTQ, Love, Relationshipscommunication, fight-or-flight

Emotional Abuse Does Not Belong In Relationships That Feel Good–Part 4

Words Wound, Too Verbal and Emotional Abuse Can Be a Stealth Weapon in Any Relationship, But Never In A Relationship That Feels Good. Part 4 Verbal and emotional abuse can damage a relationship as much–or even more–than physical abuse, because the effects of it can last a very long

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Leah CochraneMay 16, 2018July 13, 2018LGBTQ, Love, Relationships, Womenbetrayal, emotional-abuse, emotional-violence, lesbians, queer women, trust, verbal-abuse, words-as-weapons

Do You Have a Violent Relationship or Is It a Safe Place? Part 3

A Violent Relationship Cannot Be An Intimate Relationship Because It Is Not Safe. Part 3 Relationship Key Feature 3 says that for a relationship to feel good it must be 100% safe for both partners at all times. Therefore, if there is any kind of violence, it is not safe. Without safety

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Leah CochraneMay 4, 2018July 12, 2018LGBTQ, Love, Relationships, Womenbattered woman, battering, boundaries, coaching, codependence, domestic violence, lesbians, love, queer women, relationship-coaching, safe relationship, safety plan

Defining Your Relationship, Key Features Part 2

Is Your Relationship Mutual in All Ways Including How You Both Define What You Are Doing Together? Part 2: Key Feature #2: I’ve learned to not make assumptions when it comes to relationships, so some of you may find my questions a bit silly at first. They aren’t, though.

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Leah CochraneMay 3, 2018May 4, 2018LGBTQ, Love, Relationships, Women

A Healthy Relationship, Part 1

This post is the first in a series about the 8 Key Features of a healthy relationship. It is an introduction about why looking at the 8 Key Features are necessary, and a review of the first Key Feature, which says that a healthy relationship is 100% mutual. I’ll expand on that and show

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Leah CochraneMay 1, 2018May 3, 2018LGBTQ, Love, Relationshipsbreak-ups, coaching, codependence, commitment, dating, lesbians, partner, queer women, relationships, self-esteem, women

What Happens When You Settle

When I use the term “settle” or ask the question, Have you settled in your relationships? what I am referring to is the issue of settling for circumstances that are less than what you would prefer. In the case of your relationships, I’m asking if you have accepted or continued

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Leah CochraneApril 25, 2018May 1, 2018LGBTQ, Love, Relationshipsconflict, couples, intimacy, LGBTQ, love, regret, relationship-coaching, relationships, settling, singles, women